Self-Improving Quote of the Day
- "Love is making space in your life for someone else."--Niell F. Marriott
Saturday, March 27, 2021
It Looks as Good as it Tastes
Tuesday, March 23, 2021
A Hunting We Will Go
Monday, March 22, 2021
Dulce de Lightful
Wednesday, March 10, 2021
Let the Band Play!
Tonight was an exciting evening. After a year of cancellations and disappointments, Matthew finally got to participate in a band concert. Due to the C-word, this was only his second concert ever. He was in beginning band last year and beginning band is not ready for a concert in October, so his first concert was in December. His next concert was scheduled for last March. In fact, it was scheduled for the week that things shut down. It went from being a normal performance to a streamed performance to being completely cancelled in just a couple of days and was one of his first COVID related disappointments. After a year of no performances and streamed concerts during the normal band class period, it was amazing to be back at a concert. No matter how good the recording or the stream, it can never come close to imitating live music. There were COVID precautions in place, of course, including each band having their own performance time rather than having one big concert, required masks and social distancing, but despite all that, it was glorious. Matthew is in the intermediate band and enjoys that, but he loves the jazz band. His joy in the music and the opportunity to perform were evident in his face. It was so fun to see his face light up with excitement.
This is a baby step toward normalcy. Sometimes it feels like things are never going to be the same again and in reality they may never be exactly the same, but every time we regain a bit of our lives, it feels like a win. I had not realized just how much I had missed the live performances and being able to support my kids as they get back some of these events brings me joy.
Saturday, February 20, 2021
Church to Child
As soon as the broadcast ended, Malia declared that she was wishing for another one. I’m hoping and praying that before long she’ll be able to have some kind of primary to go back to. It has been nearly a year and that is a long time for anyone.
Tuesday, February 16, 2021
Yet Another Pandemic Birthday
Today was his actual birthday and we had balloons and doughnuts on hand to celebrate. Kevin also took him to K-1 Speed, an indoor go cart spot, by way of an activity. One of Matthew’s favorite video games is one where he just gets to drive a semi-truck all over. The creators map actual roadways and he really enjoys the driving, so driving for real was a good fit.
A few present highlights-Nathan gave Matthew a Metal Earth semi-truck. Like I said, Matthew really enjoys his driving game. He also really liked the wrapping Kev used for the presents from us. Many of his BYU t-shirts have become muscle shirts in the past year, so he has needed a few new ones. He was excited about the big boy Ironman Lego and the electric razor was a less popular, but highly practical gift.
Matthew has grown up a lot in the past year. This particular age has always held a big growth spurt for my boys, and while Matthew has not gained statuesque heights like Nathan did, he has outgrown his pants three or four times in the past year, and he is now taller than I am. He has also grown up mentally and emotionally. In some ways he has always been more mature than others his age due to the necessity of dealing with his food allergies and his subsequent greater understanding of his own mortality, but there has been a big jump forward this year. All of a sudden, he is no longer a little boy. He is a young man. We have all been faced with some daunting emotional challenges in the past year and Matthew is no exception. But he has leaned on his faith and his family and has been able to withstand the adversities that have come. That’s a valuable skill to have gained. I’m hopeful that as life eventually returns to a more normal state that he’ll remember what he has learned and continue to allow all of us to support him. Matthew is the one of my children that I intuitively understand the least, so having him learn to trust us and talk to us makes a huge difference in our relationship. I’m grateful for his trust and hope our relationship will continue to grow as we all move forward as a family.
Sunday, February 14, 2021
Year of the Ox
While I was pondering how to structure our menu for the week, I realized that while I know how to cook all the Chinese fare, I don’t usually bother with the exception of teriyaki and a variety of stir fries. I know my mom will make things for our Sunday dinners fairly regularly, so I just enjoy it on those occasions. But the accompanying light bulb was the fact that if I don’t teach my kids how to cook these traditional dishes, they will lose that part of their culture. That is something I definitely don’t want to happen, so as often as possible, I included the kids in the creation of the past week’s meals.
We started our weeklong ethnic food experience with the sweet courses, because who doesn’t like to eat dessert first once in a while? Our treat for family home evening on Monday was Chinese almond cookies and gau. The cookies are always a favorite around here, but gau receives more mixed reviews. Daniel, Nathan and I like it while Kevin, Matthew and Malia give it a hard pass. And I’m ok with that. It is actually pretty weird by American standards. I did learn that due to our high altitude, gau doesn’t cook well if you try to steam it the same way you would at sea level. But once I consulted with my mom and broke out the pressure cooker, it came out just right.
We celebrated the arrival of the weekend by eating stir fry noodles with char siu pork on Friday. While I was in the planning phases of this big adventure, I discovered that the char siu seasoning packets I’ve always used have a cross contact warning for peanuts, so I made the char siu from scratch this time. Let me tell you, it was well worth the extra time. It was absolutely delicious. Matthew told me that we never need to use the packets again and I agree with him whole heartedly. We broke with tradition again because didn’t use the traditional egg noodles. Matthew can’t eat them which is why we ditched them, but the egg-free yakisoba noodles we used instead were entirely delicious. Because of the egg noodles, this is one dish Matthew can never eat when we gather with my family. That was a huge perk to doing our food celebration on our own-Matthew could eat everything.
Throughout the course of the day, I discovered that when my children are involved, Chinese cooking lessons can also double as entertainment. While making bao, Nathan lost his grip and ended up with a bao floor taco. He also managed to create a bao dinosaur which is funny because he was actually trying to make a normal bao and as his attempts headed south, he turned his food into art. The other kids did pretty well with the bao and after several years of practice, I managed to create a couple that look pretty darn close to the traditional twisted top.

















































